How To Deal With Bullying

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Summer holidays are now over and it is time for everyone to go back to school and work but for some, they may be dreading going back because of a certain bully or bullies. Bullying is something very close to my heart. No, not in that way. I have been a victim of bullying for many years which made me quite knowledgeable as to how to deal with bullies and made me want to help people who are being bullied because I understand how it can be like.

Bullying is a very serious issue and often occurs in school but it can also take place within the workplace.

Bulling can be…

  • Verbal or written abuse
  • Violence – including threats
  • Sexual harassment
  • Homophobia
  • Discrimination including racial discrimination
  • Cyberbullying – either online or via mobile phone

If you are being bullied in any way, these are some of my top tips on how to deal with the situation…

Tell Someone 

One thing I have learnt throughout my time of being bullied is that I stayed silent most of the time and because of that, my bullying experience still haunts me to this day. If you are being bullied, tell someone you trust immediately. A friend, a teacher, a colleague, your boss, a parent. You will get it off your chest and feel more safer. They can give you advice on how to deal with it whilst also help you stop the bullies.

Keep Calm

Do not rise to the bullies. If they are interrogating you, just try to stay calm and don’t fight back. That is what the bullies want – to get a reaction from you. Do not show the bullies that you are sad or upset. Ignore them and walk away.

Stay Away

Try to avoid the bullies if you see them around. If it is impossible to avoid them, do not look at them. Do your own thing. If they say something, ignore them. Show them that they are not affecting you, even if they are.

Focus on Something Positive

Do what you love and enjoy to take your mind off the bullies. Try not to dwell on it. It will only just make you more upset.

Avoid Getting Violent

I know sometimes it is so hard to stay calm and you just want to hurt them but if you become violent, it will only just make things worse. Avoid getting violent and threatening the bullies.

Stay With People

Finally, try not to be alone with the bully. Always stay with people. The bully is less likely to be violent towards you if you are around people.

Bullying can affect you in more ways than you may think. It can cause you to have serious psychological implications in the future. If you are being bullied and are (or thinking of) harming yourself or ending your life, I would suggest you seek professional help immediately.

Below are some links that may help you…

BeatBullying
Samaritans 
Nightline 

Always know that you are not alone. There is help out there.

How To Make Time For Fitness

“I don’t have time” is often said when the word exercise is mentioned which is understandable. We all have a life and life sometimes can get in the way. School, college, university, kids, work etc… However, there is always time. The busiest people in the world MAKE time for fitness if they are serious about wanting to change and live a better life. These are some of my tips on how to make time for fitness.

Make Exercise Like An Appointment or Meeting

One of the main reasons why people often miss workouts is because they do not make it a priority. If you set yourself a time and place everyday as if you have an important meeting to go to, then you are less likely to forget about it. Write it into your daily planner or diary. This is such a useful way to get in a workout.

Wake Up Early

I know what you are thinking. A lot of people hate waking up early and they try to sleep as much as they can before their alarm sets off to get up for work. However, I find that working out early in the morning makes me feel rather satisfied and during the day, you do not have to worry about fitting in a workout because you have already done it. Also, if you do your workout early in the morning, you are more likely to eat more healthier during the day. Go to bed earlier and set your alarm half an hour before you usually wake up to get in a quick workout before you start your day.

Do Short Workouts

People often think a workout is a very rigorous cardio session at the gym for hours but it an simply be a short 20 minute activity of some bodyweight training in the comfort of your own home. A few squats, crunches and bicep curls can do wonders to your body. In fact, they are the exercises done to see the most change. Focus on toning and sculpting and becoming stronger rather than trying to lose weight. Fitness is not about losing weight. It is about becoming stronger, healthier and happier.

Get A Workout Partner

People often like working out alone, but if you workout with someone else, be it a friend, a partner etc… you would find that it would motivate you a bit more. Make it a social thing. Rather than meeting up for a coffee, meet up for a workout instead.

Keep Moving

Do some kind of activity at any chance you get. Walk to work instead of driving to work. If you usually commute to somewhere with public transport, get off before your stop and walk the rest. Whilst watching TV, do a few squats or bicep curls.

There is always time for fitness. You just need to think when and where you can schedule it into your day.

“If you really want to do something you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

How To Be A More Organised Person

One thing about me that people often point out is that I am a very organised person when it comes to everyday life. This comes from a perfectionist side to me. I like get things done in good time. Here are some of my tips for how to be more organised.

Write Things Down/Set Goals

Grocery list, someone’s birthday, doctors appointment or even a trip to the post office – write everything down and tick them off as you go along! Set yourself weekly goals. Every Sunday, I open up my weekly planner app on my phone and write everything I need to do in the coming week, Monday to Sunday. A weekly to-do-list. Honestly speaking, I would feel completely lost without a to-do-list. I need to visually see what I have coming up and what needs to get done each day. This prepares me for the week ahead and mentally motivates me to complete those tasks, in which I go ahead and do. Writing things down is a must if you want to be more organised.

Clean As You Go

Whenever I do something, be it studying, cooking etc…I do not wait until I finish to tidy my mess. I like to clean as I go, meaning working yet keeping things the way they are or putting them back neatly before the whole task is finished. That makes life easier and I do not have to tidy anything at the end. Always try to not to make a mess. If that is unavoidable, clean it up as soon as possible.

Put Things In Order

Colour coded, chronological, brand type, product type etc… I find that if you organise your personal stuff in order, it makes it easier for me to find things when I need it and therefore no time is wasted.

Get Rid Of Unwanted Things

I had a habit of keeping things just for the sake of it, even if I did not even need them anymore. Now I always try to get rid of anything that just takes up space. Get rid of unnecessary junk in your home, room etc… If there is a piece of clothing you do not wear anymore, put it up for sale on ebay or just simply give it to charity. If you have a camera that does not work anymore, throw it in the bin.  It will only just take up space. Old bank statements, letters etc… get a shredder and shred them all. What use would it be if you keep it?

Make Things A Habit

I wake up at 6am everyday because it is a habit. I work out everyday because it is a habit and I am motivated to do these things because they have become a habit. Making things a habit cannot just happen overnight. If you want to make a positive change to your life, start slowly. For example, if you want to wake up at 6am to work out but have never done so before, you will only set yourself up for failure. Instead, go to bed earlier and have an intention in your head to wake up early to work out. Set your alarm 15 minutes before your work out time and see what happens. Do not beat yourself up if you cannot do it. You have to give yourself realistic actions and then slowly implement them. Change takes time.

How To Find Work Experience Placements/Internships

ImageThey say experience matters over qualifications but I think both of them go hand in hand depending on what career field you are aiming for. My field is within the media and in this industry, you need experience more so than qualifications.

I have been on many work placements and internships and people often ask me how I actually secure them, as I went from one placement to the next very quickly. In 2012, it seemed like I never stopped working and chasing those dream placements. I have completed work placements at BBC Radio 4, Absolute Radio, Channel 4, Whistledown Productions for BBC Radio and Global Radio – LBC 97.3 as well as work shadowing placements at BBC’s Radio 1, 2 and 6 Music. I completed all those placements in the space of 9 months and to many people and to myself, that is pretty impressive. So, how did I get all those placements and what tips can I give you to secure one yourself? Keep reading to find out!

How I Secured My Work Placements

I have always wanted to work for the BBC ever since I was little. That is like the dream. I wanted to work at BBC Radio (any station) for my Year 10 work experience but that was proving to be rather difficult. You could say that I was not that creative then and also not that confident. However, it was a dream that I was determined to achieve so I kept on applying and applying via the BBC Careers website and got a lot of rejections but I still never gave up.

When I was 18, I got into university to study a media related course and within 4 months of being on that course, I got my first ever BBC work experience placement at Radio 4 for one month, which quite literally changed my life. I guess you could say that being on an undergraduate course at university helps you to secure those placements because it shows that you are studying the field and therefore employers are more likely to hire you for a week or two. Luckily for me, there was a module solely on work placements and we were encouraged to find a work placement and then evaluate it in an essay form after we completed the placement. I did mine on Radio 4.

ImageThis is a picture I took of the old BBC Broadcasting House where Radio 4/Radio 3 broadcasts from as well as the BBC Radio Theatre.

ImageA picture I took of the Channel 4 building in Horseferry Road, London during my placement. This was during the London Olympics/Paralympics hence the Paralympics ‘4’.

ImageI did some interviews and reporting for LBC News with this LBC microphone.

Throughout my time at Broadcasting House (Radio 4) I made a lot of amazing contacts. I was determined to get into Radio 1 and so someone kindly gave me their Radio 1 contact. Through that, I got to work shadow Fearne Cotton’s show on Radio 1 for two days which was absolutely surreal. I then made more contacts and got work shadowing placements at Radio 2 and 6 Music. I got my LBC placement through a contact too, but I applied for Absolute Radio and Channel 4, and made sure my application form stood out and had a unique twist to it and I got them!

So, my main tips to get a work placement are…

Never Give Up!

You will get rejected. That is a part of life. The main thing is to never give up. If you truly want something in life, you should never give up because speaking from experience, if you keep trying, one day it will happen. So keep applying!

Make Your Application Stand Out

Making your application stand out is often always said but how do you make it stand out exactly?. Well, for me, I decided to add a unique touch to mine. For example, in my Channel 4 application, I said that in my culture, the media industry is looked down upon and there is not many Muslim/Asian people working in the media and I said that I wanted to change that. If I was part of the C4 HR department, I would be pretty impressed by that sentence because I said that I wanted to make a difference and I guess they liked that and offered me a chance to work there. So try to add something in the application that shows how you will benefit from the placement.

University? 

This is obviously optional and university is not for everyone but for me, I really do think that university helped me get those work placements, or at least the first one. If you are at university,  go to your careers departement and ask them for help on CV’s, application forms etc… If you are not at university, try to do something else as a hobby that can show your interest in the field you are applying for. For example, if you want to work for a magazine, start a blog and state that you love writing and your blog could be the proof.

Clean Up Your CV

Your CV is the most important thing. Clean it up. Update it and keep it simple. Tailor it to the position you are applying for. Get it checked by someone.

Contacts, Contacts, Contacts! 

NETWORK. Make contacts. That is the main thing that got me most of my placements. I made a lot of contacts and they recommended me people I could talk to. Email them showing your interest in their company, do your research and ask to meet for a quick chat. Keep in touch with them. You must make contacts because you never know, in a few years down the line, they could give you your dream job.

On top of all that, I think passion and determination is what you need  to secure work placements that actually will benefit you and help you in your journey to your career development.