Celebrating small achievements with anxiety

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It has been a while since I last blogged so I thought it is about time I write.  I have been inspired to write about recognising and celebrating small achievements when you have anxiety because I don’t think people understand how even little successes matter. It is great if you have big dreams and want to focus on the main long term goal. Looking to the future and having big goals is a motivator to achieve them. But, without small achievements, you cannot get to the big ones. As the saying goes “You can’t run before you can walk.”

We all have bad memories when we may have failed something but when you think about it, there have still been many successes along the way. Have you really given yourself credit for the little things?

For me, I learnt to be proud of little things that I pushed myself to do within the last few months. I started a new job and slowly started trying to face up to my fears along the way.

For example…

  • Making small talk with a colleague: This might not seem like a big deal but my anxiety can make this difficult but whenever I go out of my way to talk to someone, to actually talk, even just saying hello…I feel like I accomplished something.
  • Answering the telephone
  • Offering to make tea for colleagues
  • Asking for a little help
  • Smiling at a stranger
  • Being honest
  • Managing to get out of bed and face the day when it is the last thing you want to do
  • Joining in a conversation rather than isolating oneself
  • Managing to find the time to workout within a busy schedule (even if it just a short walk)

There is so much to be proud of. A lot of people just focus on the negative and beat themselves up. Of course, there are times I still do that myself but there is always something to be proud of no matter how big or small they are. Even the mistakes you made or failed something, you still can be proud that you didn’t give up. Instead, you keep trying. Focus on what you can learn from the mistake and how it can motivate you to do better next time.

New Year’s Resolutions?

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The reason why we often fall of the wagon with our New Year’s Resolutions is because they are rather big goals, which in the long term, sounds like a good achievable plan, but in the short term, it is really unachievable and you are setting yourself up for failure, We often fail to recognise this.

Every year, I always hear people’s New Year’s Resolutions is to ‘lose weight’ or to ‘give up smoking’ but what are you doing to achieve that goal in the short-term? Giving something up cold turkey or trying to lose 25lbs straight away is not the way to go and frankly you are setting yourself up for failure. January is the month people are very motivated and determined to get back on track after the festive period. However, come February, people often give up on that goal altogether because they are very big long-term goals. This is why people do not stick to their resolutions. 

I think a new year is a good time to think about improving yourself in the best way possible so I am all for resolutions. However, they need to be achievable in the short term.

What I would do to achieve that goal, is to set yourself small weekly goals. So, if you want to go to the gym more this year and you never usually go to the gym, go once a week. Start from there. Do that for a couple of weeks until you feel like you can extend it. Then go twice a week, then three times a week and so on.

If you want to give up smoking, instead of stopping altogether, cut down on how many times you smoke in a day and then gradually, cut down a bit more and then smoke once a day or every other day. This will be easier for you in the long-term to totally give it up. 

This goes to any other goals you want to achieve. Start slowly, set yourself weekly goals and go from there. If you do it like this and are serious about the goal, you will tend to stick to your resolutions all year, instead of giving up in February. 

Happy New Year! 

 

How To Be A More Organised Person

One thing about me that people often point out is that I am a very organised person when it comes to everyday life. This comes from a perfectionist side to me. I like get things done in good time. Here are some of my tips for how to be more organised.

Write Things Down/Set Goals

Grocery list, someone’s birthday, doctors appointment or even a trip to the post office – write everything down and tick them off as you go along! Set yourself weekly goals. Every Sunday, I open up my weekly planner app on my phone and write everything I need to do in the coming week, Monday to Sunday. A weekly to-do-list. Honestly speaking, I would feel completely lost without a to-do-list. I need to visually see what I have coming up and what needs to get done each day. This prepares me for the week ahead and mentally motivates me to complete those tasks, in which I go ahead and do. Writing things down is a must if you want to be more organised.

Clean As You Go

Whenever I do something, be it studying, cooking etc…I do not wait until I finish to tidy my mess. I like to clean as I go, meaning working yet keeping things the way they are or putting them back neatly before the whole task is finished. That makes life easier and I do not have to tidy anything at the end. Always try to not to make a mess. If that is unavoidable, clean it up as soon as possible.

Put Things In Order

Colour coded, chronological, brand type, product type etc… I find that if you organise your personal stuff in order, it makes it easier for me to find things when I need it and therefore no time is wasted.

Get Rid Of Unwanted Things

I had a habit of keeping things just for the sake of it, even if I did not even need them anymore. Now I always try to get rid of anything that just takes up space. Get rid of unnecessary junk in your home, room etc… If there is a piece of clothing you do not wear anymore, put it up for sale on ebay or just simply give it to charity. If you have a camera that does not work anymore, throw it in the bin.  It will only just take up space. Old bank statements, letters etc… get a shredder and shred them all. What use would it be if you keep it?

Make Things A Habit

I wake up at 6am everyday because it is a habit. I work out everyday because it is a habit and I am motivated to do these things because they have become a habit. Making things a habit cannot just happen overnight. If you want to make a positive change to your life, start slowly. For example, if you want to wake up at 6am to work out but have never done so before, you will only set yourself up for failure. Instead, go to bed earlier and have an intention in your head to wake up early to work out. Set your alarm 15 minutes before your work out time and see what happens. Do not beat yourself up if you cannot do it. You have to give yourself realistic actions and then slowly implement them. Change takes time.